Just a jumble of thoughts I want to get down, which has only been in my mind for the past... 4 hours or so...
Okay, so this all really just popped up when I was driving home from work...
I kind of felt heart sick again, you know, when you start to yearn for a relationship, but that's over with already... What was really important is this next part. I had an epiphany. It's not smart to have epiphanies whilst driving, because it can inhibit your concentration on the road; so I'm warning people reading this not to do it if it can be avoided. I'm a skilled driver, so I'll survive. =P
Getting back to the point; the epiphany.
What I realised was that in the midst of all the angst that I've felt for the past year, all that yearning for a relationship and shit, I was never the one to feel the most pain. The saying "It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all." is WRONG. In saying so, it is better to have never loved at all, because we, the "never-loved" have never experienced what it feels like to be in a relationship, and so it
does not hurt us as much as those that have loved. We want to have a relationship, always complaining about being single and all that crap, and yet, we never think of it from those who
have loved and lost. They have felt what it means to be in a relationship, they've felt the joy and passion of it all, and when they lose it all, their whole world comes crashing down, moreso that we who have never loved. And so they must yearn more for a relationship than we do, and in turn, it hurts them more than it does us.
We, as humans, never contemplate what it means to be someone who has lost something that they have gained, instead, we fixate on trying to gain something which we may one day may lose, which we have not already lost.
Forgive my ignorance, but there probably will be more epiphanies as such to come in the future.